Sorry I’ve been a bit rubbish at keeping up with my blog lately, life always seems to get in the way! Anywho, I’m here now and I wanted to talk a little bit about jealousy or comparing yourself to others. Especially if you have friends who are also writers.
Its going to be hard but please please please don’t compare your work, yourself or your writing journey to anyone else’s! Sometimes its hard not to, especially if your friends or peers are seemingly doing better than you, and they are getting more success or attention with their writing.
The most wonderful thing about writing, is that it is an ageless profession. Meaning that you have your whole life to write, to rewrite and to write it again! Of course everyone dreams of being an ‘up and coming’ when they are young, but that doesn’t happen for everyone. Give yourself time. Take the pressure off. Don’t be that friend who can’t be happy for other people’s success.
You may be secretly thinking “Why isn’t this happening to me?” or “When is it my turn?!”, but there is nothing worse than when something goes well and a friend is sat there with a sour face. Be their cheerleader. Go to their events. You may even meet someone who will be important to your own writing journey!
Keep working hard and keep believing in your own talents. Don’t hate on someone else’s success to make you feel better. Focus on you. Your journey. Your life. Be kind to others and treat them how you want to be treated. It’s okay to be a little jealous, but use that as fuel to make your own dreams happen.
Remember that persistence outshines talent. Don’t become complacent and think your talent will pull you through. Keep going. Keep writing. Keep putting yourself out there and keep creating the life you want. Support your friends and peers, and don’t compare your writing journey to anyone else’s.